IHTM Archive

IT HAPPENED TO ME: My Boyfriend Turned Out to Be a Slumlord

In March of 2016, Malcolm* and I decided to move in together. We’d been dating for just about four months. It was alarmingly fast, but it felt right. We spent just about every waking second together.We met on Tinder and had an instant connection, even though our personalities were a bit mismatched. … Continue reading Source link

IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Served on a Jury for a Domestic Violence Case

Jury duty happens. I’ll admit it: when the official-looking envelope arrived, my first thoughts were not excitement to participate in the democratic process. They were, How can I get out of this so I don’t waste too much of my life?My previous experience with jury duty consisted of me checking the … Continue reading Source link

IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Accidentally Spilled Clam Juice in a Rich Lady's Purse and Didn't Tell Her

I had my first waitressing job at 16 years old, working at a small mom-and-pop seafood restaurant along the beach in southern New Hampshire. It might have been small, but this place raked in the dough from tourists who wanted a true New England summertime meal. It was a gold mine for … Continue reading Source link

IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Saw My Grandmother's Ghost After I Started Wearing One of Her Rings

I was 10 years old when my extended family cut us off. All of them except for my grandma. And it wasn’t like we had two sides of the family, because we weren’t ever introduced to my dad’s side; no fault of his own because he didn’t really know them either. So I clung to my grandma. She’d … Continue reading Source link

IT HAPPENED TO ME: My Brother Was Killed by a Hit-and-Run Driver, And I Didn't Want to Go On Living

My heart beat hot in my ears. That was the only thing I could feel as my life, my perfect little illusion of a life, collapsed in on itself. I knew I should be crying or screaming, but I wasn’t. Instead, words that didn’t make sense left my mouth on repeat: “Stop joking.” Over and over again, … Continue reading Source link

IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Came Out to My Husband, And He Didn't Believe I Wanted a Divorce Until I Offered Him the House

Growing up poor in the Midwest, there was nothing I desired so much as a home to call my own. From the moment my parents divorced, we were nomads  — and achingly poor nomads, at best. While my mother lay in a hospital, inching closer to death last year, I tried to distract myself with … Continue reading Source link

IT HAPPENED TO ME: My Boyfriend Cheated with My Best Friend and I Didn't Tell Them That I Knew for Several Weeks

All throughout my life, I’ve had this complicated “make friends but keep no friends” theory — not because I’m antisocial or hate people, but because I feel very inclined to guard my heart against betrayals and other treacherous acts.I had just enrolled in a tertiary institution for a … Continue reading Source link

IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Got Pregnant with an IUD and Ended the Pregnancy to Save My Own Life

“I need your expert opinion on something,” I said a bit hysterically to my mother over FaceTime. “Uh… OK,” she replied, unsure how to react to my desperate mood. She had just picked up the phone on the second ring and I hadn’t even bother to say hello.“Does this look like two pink lines to … Continue reading Source link

IT HAPPENED TO ME: A 26-Year-Old Man Proposed to Me When I Was 16

In tattered jeans and a Bible study T-shirt, I arrived home to a beautiful three-story house nestled in a gated community of the no-man’s-land of Pasco County, Florida. I had just spent two months in Bethlehem, where I sweated out my summer days shoveling gravel to pave a parking lot for a … Continue reading Source link

IT HAPPENED TO ME: My Boyfriend and I Were Both Diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome

When I was a little kid, I was renowned for my “circus freak” flexibility. I would gross out the other kids by bending my fingers all the way back, or impress them by doing perfect splits. I secretly thought that these abilities were the manifestation of some mental ability, that I just “knew how” … Continue reading Source link